Today is the start of a weekend celebration for our youngest sister Tove! She got married last week! I am full of emotion for many reasons... I have known "Tia" for 16 years. When I found out she was married all of the memories of the past 16 years came flooding back to me... I don't have a sister and for me Tia has always been "my sister". I have known her since she was 7. I remember putting her to bed at night. I would lay in her bed with her we would talk and I would tickle her face and rub her back and play with her hair. To the rest of her siblings she was an annoying 7 year old but to me she was like the cutest thing I had ever seen. She was soo sweet and she liked me. Just because she liked me it made me love her more. Everyone likes to be liked. Heather, Bjorn and Leif were used to the whole sibling thing but for me it was something new and she filled a void of a "sister" connection. There is something to be said about being married to my high school sweetheart. I am only 32 and have such a "history" with his family and he with mine. I feel lucky to be in the situation that I am in. I "know" my husband and his family more in depth and deeper than I would if I were to marry him at the age of say 25. I know almost EVERYTHING about this family and they me. We know personalities, idiosyncrasies, likes dislikes ect... just like a family should.
As I said earlier my heart is FULL of emotion... I really miss Heather the oldest Bornes sibling. Most of you know she passed away from cancer 2 years ago after an 11 year battle. I also feel lucky to have been there from the beginning of her diagnosis. Heather was pregnant with our nephew Tristan and she had just come home from seeing Jimmy our OBGYN and she said that the nurse felt something on her side and she told the nurse it was her "big" organ. And of course the nurse said no I don't think so... and so began her 11 year journey of cancer. Bjorn and I were sitting at the table when Heather came home and told us the story of what happened at her doctors appt. and of course I was very young and not very tactful... So I said "Maybe it's a TUMOR- which was the furthest thing from her mind at the time, because she was pregnant and happy and going to marry Scott and she had a great job and life was great for her and here I come ruining her thoughts... come to find out, it was in fact a gigantic tumor. But it is experiences like these that I cherish. I knew/know Heather for many years. She too was like my sister but my older sister whom I looked up too. She taught me the things an older sister teaches her younger sister.. She taught me how to do my hair, makeup and about fashion. I'll blame her for my LOVE of those things...hehe. I miss her because I KNOW how much JOY she would have for our little sister Tia. I wish she were here so we could plan Tia's life for her... we were great at planning other people's lives for them... I wish she were here so we could talk about the nieces and nephews that Tia and Ryan are going to have and about how Tia and Ryan are going to have to go through all of the things that newlyweds go through. I know she is here with us but I wish she were here in a physical sense. I want to have her here at this time in our life as a sister. NO ONE knows us like our family does.
I have Millions of memories of the Bornes family... I cherish my family more than anything...I would go to the ends of the earth for them. I have chambers in my heart reserved for them and me being the mother bear that I am I fearlessly protective... like how a mother bear is protective over her cubs.. I feel that way about my family... no one can love them like I do... Right or wrong I am on their side... I get that from Papa...
Tove is entering a new chapter of life. She is an adult and now a married woman. She has always been 7 to me and when she got married, I was like Whoa!! She is not 7 anymore she is a woman in her twenties and makes her own decisions. It's hard for me to "let" her go and become a woman, but I have too. I have to respect her in a different way now. My mind has gone through an adjustment period over this past week and I have had to realize that she is no longer the little girl I want her to be. I truly hope she is eternally happy and has lots of babies and remains "best friends" with her husband. I do feel good that she took our advice and married her best friend. Bjorn and I are absolute best friends!! We don't give out advice often because we are NOT experts on marriage( in may cases we are the example of what not to do) but we did offer her the advice to marry her best friend.
Tia, I hope you and Ryan find Eternal joy and happiness. We now have a new "brother" and we accept him and love him... we need to get to know him better, but you love him and he makes you happy so we have no choice but to be happy for you!!! We are an eternal family and no one can take that from us! Lets Party!!